Getting lost for most of us in an unfortunate event, it signifies ignorance, inexperience and lack of responsibility to the person at fault. That’s why sometimes we fear of getting out of our homes to wander around because of that fear of being alone in a place alien to us.
Oftentimes, I always find myself in this situation because I am never good with directions especially in a foreign land. Back then, I hated the feeling of being alone and would always seek companions wherever I go, may it be a short trip to Divisoria or just getting around the neighborhood. I hated being alone and loathed people who will not join me.
Later on, I have found out that it is just natural for humans to dislike getting lost. In ancient times, keeping track of your location is a matter of life and death, one wrong move can get you killed by wild animals that are on a look out for prey. That is why many of these tribes have created a system of navigation through the use of the sun and stars positions, think of the North Star, Polaris. Imagine the hazard that they have to go through in every day of their lives, the fear that they have to go through. And back then, survival was everything.
In example is the movie, The Croods. Grug (the Dad) was reluctant in changing their living because they already have everything that they needed. But since he knows they have everything they needed, he feared that if he changes something, everything he had done for his family to survive, will all be gone. But when their cave got ruined by an earthquake, it made them question their knowledge about survival. Guy who was “revolutionary”, changed the Croods family’s view towards life and has shown them that by exploring and embracing change everything can get better. Fact is, we create our set of fears, we get so consumed on that thinking that we work around to avoid them, in which we become very limited.
So what am I saying exactly? Getting lost is perfectly fine. Along the way, you will discover some things that are better, far better than what you currently enjoy. By getting lost, you are actually helping yourself experience unfamiliarity, in which case you are actually growing. For life to be better we must get rid of the things that is holding us back, fear is nothing if you greatly desire something.
One story I vividly remember is how J.K Rowling was struggling as a single parent in London. She had government subsidies supporting her and her child. She has no day job; all she has is an idea and an old typewriter. Like you and me, she fears of something, in her case it was failure. Her manuscript of “Harry Potter and the Philosopher’s stone” was rejected by every publications she submitted it to, all 15 of it. But this event did not stop her from reaching her goal, she waited for her time and secured some funding and finally hit it off. Now, the Harry Potter franchise is worth $15 billion, having J.K Rowling as the second highest paid entertainer in the world.
One wise man once said that “A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step”. That step is not only contained to the term ‘step’ which means to ‘walk’ but on how we approach that journey. I feared of getting lost but my need for purpose and importance is greater.
It was Friday afternoon of June that I boarded the plane going to Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia. It is my first time getting on a plane alone and in the country itself. In the never ending quest to find importance and happiness I took this chance to let myself grow, to open my mind to a lot more, to the ideas, to the culture and to the world. Now the formula to overcome fear is to have a greater need.
“Worry is a way to pretend that you have knowledge or control over what you don’t–and it surprises me, even in myself, how much we prefer ugly scenarios to the pure unknown.”
― Rebecca Solnit, A Field Guide to Getting Lost